Anirbaan Hritiq

The game of life can be extremely unpredictable, especially in the age of technology where everything changes with the touch of a button and, even relationships are not immune to this. Falling in love is one of the most beautiful experiences of human life, and perhaps it most addictive too. People can go up to any extent to prove love for their loved ones.

The dynamic progress of technology in form of enhancement of methods of communication, the introduction of social media platforms, and bespoke dating applications have made it extremely easier to find your desired partner. Whether it’s the girl next door or a boy you saw at some event, you can easily get in touch with them. 

However, sometimes these relationships don’t work due to varied reasons and leave people in immense pain. The pain is inevitable and it leaves a lifelong impact on an individual’s life, affecting his future relationships, beliefs, and trust quotient. 

The good thing is that there’s always sunshine after sunset and a solution for every problem. Here are seven ways which may help you get over your past relationship:

1. Acceptance: The most difficult phase comes just after a break-up, where people overthink and introspect circumstances and usually end up being either demoralised or broke. The first and foremost thing after a break-up is to stop-over thinking, never blame or hold yourself accountable for being the one who couldn’t make it. Relationships are always a two-way affair, and both partners are equivalently responsible for whatever has happened. Accept the reality that it’s over and you are no longer connected.

2. Stop Stalking, Spying: The most common thing people do after a break-up is to stalk their partners, finding out whom they are dating or with whom they are hanging out. Stalking only exaggerates the anxiety and multiplies the probability of not moving on. To have a healthy and harmonic life, completely cut-off from all links which connect you with the past. You can start by deleting the number, using the block function on social media platforms and reducing the mutual connections.

3. Get rid of memories: Well, that is another important aspect of moving on. Gifts, souvenirs, photographs and other similar kinds of things can trigger your emotions and distract you from your goal. It is extremely important to realise the fact that the materials were the reminiscences of the mortal feelings attached to them, once the association ends everything attached to it becomes meaningless.

4. Discuss with your close friends or family: Yes, sometimes speaking to your soul out can make you feel lighter and happy. Never burden yourself with feelings as it acts like a time bomb ticking at a slow pace. Once the level of patience gets exhausted, it can lead to dreadful consequences such as chronic depression, suicidal tendencies, and unnecessary aggression. Therefore, the best way to get off the memories is to speak out everything at once to a close friend or family member. In case you don’t trust anyone, it’s always handy to write down your feelings in a diary.

5. Identify the priorities: Self-love is paramount, always keep yourself above anything else. It is wisely said, one who doesn’t love himself can never love anyone else. Identify your priorities and fix yourself to be able to achieve your desired goals. Priorities can be of various kinds for some it may be in form of education, physical wellness, professional goal, etc. Meanwhile, for others, it can be in terms of keeping their family members happy, engaging in social services and other similar things. It is always important to understand that you are the master of your emotions and game, and no external factors can affect you.

6. Keep yourself busy: After break-ups, everyone usually suggests focusing on hobbies or things you admire to do. But, it's difficult to focus on creative activities with a disturbed mind. Therefore, always opt for doing something which keeps you busy; it can be doing daily chores, gardening, driving to distant locations, going on a vacation, engaging in social services or anything which keeps you occupied.

7. It is never late for consulting a doctor: Sometimes things go beyond our control, leading to unexpected extremities. If anyone is going through a prolonged phase of depression due to post-break-up trauma, it is always advisable to go for professional help. Instead of getting drowned in addictive substances such as smoking, alcohol and any form of drugs which may give temporary relief at cost of your health, it is always advisable to consult a doctor or seek medical support.