Bengaluru mother pays Rs 46,000 a month to two nannies, parenting model divides internet

In India’s fast-paced metros, juggling careers and caregiving is no small feat. For many working parents, dependable childcare is no longer optional - it’s foundational. A Bengaluru-based mother recently ignited a spirited online discussion after revealing that she employs two nannies for her young sons, spending Rs 46,000 a month to maintain stability at home.

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Two Nannies, One Support System

Parveen Choudhury, mother to two boys aged three and four, shared on Instagram how she structures her household support. The primary nanny earns Rs 32,000 per month and manages cooking, cleaning, and childcare for up to 11 hours daily, including overnight stays when necessary. A second nanny, paid Rs 14,000, steps in to assist and provide backup.

For Choudhury, this arrangement ensures her children feel secure and cared for while she works or travels. Beyond her own family, she highlighted how the income impacts her employees’ lives too.

She said, “One of the nannies has 3 kids back in her village that she supports with her salary. It’s women exchanging resources for doing the best for their family.” More Than Just Employment Choudhury insists her equation with her nannies goes beyond salary slips.

In her video caption, she wrote, “For me, nannies are not just a transactional exchange where I pay them for a certain hours and they give me a service. For me, they are an extension of my family system. I’m getting two loving aunts to look after my kids. For me, integrity and trust are important, so when I find the right people, I trust them and never micromanage. In return, my house help has always given me way more than I can imagine. They have enabled me to work, travel and care for my kids even when I myself may fall short.”

She also openly addressed her financial privilege, stating, “I know I’m privileged to be able to afford nannies and I’m grateful for this privilege every day, and work hard to be able to provide handsomely to those who care for my kids. With the salary I give, my nannies are able to afford a good education for their kids.”

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Internet Applause and Backlash

The post quickly went viral, drawing both admiration and criticism. Many applauded her transparent acknowledgment of help.

One commenter wrote, “Love this. At the end of the day we all thrive off of healthy, sustainable support and what you’ve said here is a great lesson in how important it is to have help in this journey.”

But others questioned the fairness of wages.

One critic calculated the hourly pay of the main nanny, “As per reel, 11 hrs per day, assuming 26 days, Nanny works for 286 hours. So her hourly rate is 110 rs per hour. Now this is only possible in India, as high levels of poverty, due to Corruption in government. Do you think you would find labour for 2$ per hour in any country? So it’s not feminism. It’s the rich exploiting the poor. But yes at an individual level, it’s a good deal, win-win, but at systemic failure.”

Some responses were more personal than political.

One woman wrote, “It’s good if it works for you. I personally don’t have the heart to give my baby to anyone else. I have lot to give to my child, and no nanny or work can replace the skills, character, knowledge and spiritual grounding that I can personally give to my child. But then it’s absolutely personal.”

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A Mother’s Rebuttal

Choudhury addressed the criticism head-on, clarifying that delegation does not equal detachment. She responded, “Why do you feel I’m being replaced by the nannies. They are there to do the work that I can delegate, like potty washing, bathing, feeding, and school trips. Because I’m not tired from chores, I have more time and energy to actually do all that you have written. You can check my page posts. I read books to them, take them for walks in nature. Their dad plays with them, tells stories. There’s no award being given to the ‘mother India’ stereotype who sacrifices all, it only breeds resentment, and even children look down upon mothers who don’t have a separate identity from the kids.”

Her story has become more than a personal parenting choice - it’s now part of a larger conversation about privilege, labour value, motherhood, and modern urban life.