Cassian Baliarsingh

Good love gone bad can be very painful. It doesn’t matter who was right or who was wrong, the bottom line is that it hurts, hurts a lot. While people say time is the best healer, we all know that even time can’t heal certain memories/pains.

Yes, you read it right. Even time cannot heal everything. It needs more than that. But, yes, time can lessen the pain. So, let’s take a look into a few concrete steps you can take to facilitate the process.

Below are a few tips to move on when you still love someone:

1. Cut off contact: Many people hang on to the idea of friendship with an ex as a way to keep the possibility of the relationship alive because the idea of completely letting go seems to be overwhelming. But, you have to cut off all contacts with your ex, at least for a little while. Being in touch with your ex isn’t maturity, knowing to take care of oneself and own emotional well-being is.

2. Stop the blame game: It is our nature to blame others for what happened to us after a breakup in love. So, when something terrible like a heartbreak happens, you cannot let bad experiences dictate your future.

3. Master Emotions: Sometimes, we use our anger to move forward after a relationship ends. But, as time passes by, your anger can be unhealthy for yourself. Negative feelings will take a toll on your emotional and physical health.

4. Let go of the fantasy: Most people don’t want back the relationship they actually had. What they mourn for is the relationship they thought they could have had if things had just been different. But, the truth is, that relationship didn’t exist.

5. Make peace with the past: Forgiveness isn’t about letting the person off the hook for his or her bad behaviour; it is about your emotional freedom.

6. It’s OK to still love them: Part of maturity is recognizing that love by itself isn’t always enough to make a relationship work.

7. Love yourself more: Believing that you deserve to be in a loving relationship with someone who shares your values and treats you well requires that you view yourself in a positive light.