'Selling passes to his wedding': Man’s unusual gift request sparks debate 

An Indian man's unexpected request for money towards an air conditioner at a friend's wedding sparked debate on modern etiquette, after his offer to help was ignored.

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Weddings are meant to be celebrations of love, joy, and lifelong companionship, but what happens when the invitation comes with a price tag? In an age where traditions are evolving and practicality often trumps pomp, one Indian man’s bizarre experience with a friend’s wedding request has stirred up an online storm. When he expected warmth and welcome, what he got instead was a request for money, not as a gift, but as a contribution toward the couple’s new air conditioner. The story, shared on Reddit, has since gone viral, sparking a wider conversation about modern wedding etiquette, boundaries, and the fine line between asking and expecting.

From Silence to a Transactional Invite

According to the now-viral Reddit post, the man had reached out several times to a close friend who was about to tie the knot, offering help with wedding preparations. Surprisingly, all those messages were ignored—until a very different kind of message finally arrived. But it wasn’t a thank you or an invitation. Instead, it felt more like a bill.

“How About an AC Instead of a Gift?”

The groom's friend initially responded in good faith, asking if the couple had any specific preferences for a wedding present. “I was thinking of giving cash or a gift voucher so you can use it for something you need,” he said.

But what came next shocked him. The groom requested a specific contribution: ₹3,100 towards a new air conditioner. He explained that several friends had already pitched in, and he needed four more people to complete the ₹42,000 purchase. “We recently shifted, and we are pooling money together for major expenses like an AC, dining table, etc.,” the groom wrote.

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"It Felt Like Buying a Ticket"

The man was taken aback. “It honestly felt like I was buying a pass to attend his wedding,” he wrote. Although he ended up transferring ₹6,000 nearly double the requested amount, he chose not to attend the wedding at all, feeling that the gesture had reduced a special occasion to a transaction.

The Internet Reacts: Tacky or Practical?

The story quickly gained traction online, sparking intense discussions about gift etiquette and wedding expectations.

Some users were quick to criticize the groom’s approach. “Any event where I’m asked upfront about the gift, I skip, no matter how close the person is,” one user commented.

Others pointed out that the concept wasn’t entirely alien. “In the US, people use wedding registries where couples list desired items. Your friend just did it in a very cringe way,” another replied.

Changing Traditions or Crossing the Line?

With the rising costs of weddings and household items, more couples are seeking practical contributions rather than decorative gifts. But this story begs the question—is there a right way to ask?

While some see the groom’s ask as forward-thinking, many agree that how you ask makes all the difference.

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